The Four Biggest Mistakes YOU Make With People

Same as you can make grave mistakes when building a house you can make grave mistakes in dealing with people. There are all sorts of training around and many courses and recommendations, yet few of them actually get down to the essence. Basically there are four different types of personalities !

1. You probably have developed a methods which permits you to get along with people, but you are aware that not everybody responds in the way you would like it. To get best results in business as well as your personal life, you need to adapt your approach  to their personality type. Basically there are 4  different  types of personalities to which you have to adapt. This may sound complicated, but it is easy once you know it. The results will be proof  enough!
   
2. Too many people in business have their main focus on their product/service. They memorise colours, shapes, ingredients, they are “haunted” by the idea of having to become experts at it. They can even tell stories of miracles and longevity and a lot more. No matter how much time people spend there - that stuff doesn't mean ANYTHING!!!!! What is critical to your long-term success and happiness in life / business is the relationships you build. You need to focus your effort on building these long-term relationships! Unless you do it,  you really do not have a clue what you are doing.
   
3. May be you spend your time worrying about what other people might be  thinking about you, when most people aren't thinking anything about you at all. They're wondering what you're thinking about them! Hm. So once you know this life is fun and stress-free. Your mind is free for what counts in life! 
   
4. Next, YOU need to listen. Most people are not aware that failure to listen is what's holding them back in their life – private as well as business. Your mind is continuously busy, over charged with all that floods in. You just wait for the moment, when the other person makes a pause in speaking and you can jump on them with your own offer/thoughts. That is your only focus! You HAVE to tell them about it. Just to be polite you'll let them fit in a word,  yet what they say is lost on you. Your want to tell people what YOU think, this is what counts for you.

Can you see the difference - the need to learn how to listen intently and without an agenda, so that people will be happy to communicate with you? Feel free to be in touch! The story below will make it more obvious:

A group of researchers made a test one day. they placed on of their group, let’s call him Mark, next to a manager on a long distance flight. It was Mark’s task to  communicate with his fellow passenger. All he did, was asking the man a few questions. After the plane had landed an other person of the research team approached the manager and asked him if he had had a pleasant flight. He replied cheerfully, that he had had the most pleasant flight and that he had had the most charming fellow passenger next to him!  He just loved that somebody had listened to him!

Frieke Karlovits

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